aquagal62 asked:
My husband loves to watch youtube videos.He just loves to see variety of videos from F1 races to songs.Recently I saw that he had also searched for videos of “boobs” ,”black satin panties” or “maria sharapova’s ass”.I was shocked and just could’nt understand it.When I asked him about it, he said that he didnt know that it was such a big deal.that checking out all these stuff are really trivial compared to the mental bond we shared.He promised me that he’ll never do it again and would’nt have done it if he knew it was such a big deal.
Am I making a big deal out of it….or is my concern and anger legitimate..??
Viola - Satin Panties contributor
My husband loves to watch youtube videos.He just loves to see variety of videos from F1 races to songs.Recently I saw that he had also searched for videos of “boobs” ,”black satin panties” or “maria sharapova’s ass”.I was shocked and just could’nt understand it.When I asked him about it, he said that he didnt know that it was such a big deal.that checking out all these stuff are really trivial compared to the mental bond we shared.He promised me that he’ll never do it again and would’nt have done it if he knew it was such a big deal.
Am I making a big deal out of it….or is my concern and anger legitimate..??
Viola - Satin Panties contributor
Tags: Anger, Black Satin, Dilemma
Elizabeth - Satin Panties contributor
Most men like to look at stuff like that. I personally don’t find it that big of a deal, but it really depends on how it makes you feel. My big thing is don’t hide it. If it’s hidden then I get concerned.
Judith - Satin Panties contributor
if it gets in the way of your marriage then it is a problem. just know that he is only looking. EVERYONE including you have at least thought about someone else at some point in your relationship. i think it’s not a bad thing. i do not do it but that is just me.
Gregory - Satin Panties contributor
I’d be grateful. At least you didn’t find search terms like “gay” or “kiddie”.
Harvey - Satin Panties contributor
Although I am in total agreement with you on the issue…… it does call into question; just how well do you really know your husband? I mean…. what else do you not know about what appeals to him? his wants? What turns him on or off? Where does he draw the line? on this or that? What else is there about him that would shock you or surprise you? If I were you, I’d take this as a “red flag” and use it to start an intimate discussion to get to know a side of him that maybe you don’t know about. But don’t accuse him of anything or get angry, that would only cause him to retreat into a “shell” from you. He might just “shut down” and become silent. Get a Couple’s Board Game…. it’s suppose to enrich your relationship and help you to “know” each other better. You may have to get it online. Just google Board Games for couples.
Adam - Satin Panties contributor
No, that’s degrading. What if you were watching a guy swing his balls all over the screen, would he like it?