If your still reading, consider that your one of the people he looks up to most in his life and be flattered. If you have other kids have a dress up like mommy time one evening to show it isn’t bad it’s just not an all the time thing. You could dress like daddy to be funny. It might help with the hiding of things if he doesn’t believe you’ll be mad. Tell him your glad he likes how you dress but you like his clothes a lot too. Good luck and be patient

I would buy you son some Hanes colored underwear and tell him this is his underwear and I don’t want to see you in my underwear. You can also say I know you like the pretty colors my underwear comes in so I got you some too. Afterall wearing colors is the least one worries about.

The earlier you tackle this problem the better. But later on down the road women like to see men in their underwear and vice versa. So what if a mature adult wears female underwear? It’s only underwear and it’s not illegal.

Ok,people are dumb. I have worn pantyhose since I was 7. I only wear them when I am alone and I know it is not accepted, but the worst thing you can do is punish him. He will only hide it more and feel horrible inside. I always thought I was alone until the internet. I am as normal a person as they come. I have a respectable job and am very curtious around people, I just love pantyhose. Just let him indulge in it, it could be worse he could be a killer or ******. Having a pantyhose ****** is harmless. As for other people on this forum, they **** and a small minded.

My boy had the same thing going on at around 4:5 years old. One day he went over to his aunts house and she called me to tell me he had on my underwear under his shorts. I didn’t know what to do. I spoke to him telling him that, “these are mommy’s and are for girls only” He said okay and stopped. (I think) I don’t want to give him a complex, or make him feel worse if he is having mixed sexual identity issues. Best of luck. You are not alone.

You must explain to him that you do not want him to do this, and if he does it again there will be consequences such as removing his toys for a short period of time (e.g. half a day), or removing other priviledges for a short time. Keep reminding him that you will enforce this rule, and he will have to face the consequences of his actions. The punishment need only be very brief to get your message through to him.

There is nothing wrong with what he is doing, but he must not be permitted to continue as it is against your wishes.

Can you also store them out of reach or lock the storage area with a latch? This will prevent the problem from continuing.

He may just like to dress up for the sake that he has no clothes like them, or it may be a bit deeper…..
How often are you home? he may be using your things as lovies because they remind him of you. Ask him if he is missing you during the day, and if this is the case offer him an alternative to this strange behavior, like a hankie or some other thing sprayed with your perfume or something else that smells like you.

I would explain to him that since he hasn’t listened to you about respecting your personal items, that you have to put a lock on your door. I wouldn’t discuss in any way that wearing or trying on your personal items is wrong. You should try to impress on him that it is more important that he didn’t listen and pay attention to you, and that’s why the lock is going on the door. The lock doesn’t have to be expensive and maybe just one of those protective plastic covers for the door handle may be enough to keep him out of your room until he learns to listen and respect what you tell him.

You may want to speak with the pediatrician by telephone (not in front of your child) to get the doctor’s input on your concerns.

At five, it probably is much more to do with the fabric than that they’re for women. I wouldn’t worry - he’ll probably grow out of it. See if you can find something for boys that feels silky for him to wear instead. Maybe a tie or something.

But when it comes down to it, if he likes wearing women’s clothes because he feels like he should be a girl, there’s nothing you can do to change that. The best thing for him would be to accept him for who he is, and if he wants to wear a dress, let him wear a dress. You have to understand that you can’t do anything to change who he is.

Try talking to him about it. Make sure he understands that those are girls clothes, and ask him why he likes them.

discipline through punishment

HE IS CURIOUS HOW TO PUT THEM ON…ASK HIM WHY HE LIKES THEM ..SOME KIDS ARE VERY CURIOUS AND NEED TO EXPERIMENT….AT SCHOOL THEY HAVE TOYS THAT THEY DRESS UP>>>UNDIES ETC ETC…MY 7 YEARS OLD SON LOVES TO DRESS UP BEARS..I TOLD HIM TO CUT IT OUT OTHER KIDS WILL LAUGH AT HIM SO NOW HE UNDERSTAND! THEY GO THROUGH PHASES….KIDS DON”T REALLY UNDERSTAND….BOYS ESPECIALLY WE LABEL THEM HARDER!

FEMALE UNDERGARMENTS ARE VERY INTERESTING TO KIDS!! JUST BE CAREFUL HE DOESN”T GET TANGLED WITH THE PANTY HOSE!!